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Enjoying Each Season of Motherhood

“My baby is growing up.”

These words weren’t uttered for the first time when he started crawling or on his first birthday. Instead, they were said on the way home from the hospital. He was just one day old!

I spent the first few months of his life sad.

I was sad he was growing, sad he wasn’t a newborn and sad he wasn’t going to stay a baby forever.

Once I realized mourning the past was keeping me from enjoying the present, I began fervently praying about the issue.

I prayed that God would allow me to be content with the season of life I was in, that He would take away the overwhelming sadness that my baby was growing too fast and that I would have joy throughout the years as my children grew.

My heart began to change.

I enjoyed my son in each and every stage instead of looking back on those early days with such longing.

I realized how blessed I am. How selfish it was of me to not want him to grow.

I thought about mamas who have never seen their child because of a miscarriage and mamas who held their stillborn baby only once. They would give anything to watch their babies grow.

I thought about the mamas who have a child diagnosed with cancer who just pray they can see their child grow up to graduate high school or get married.

I also thought of the women dealing with the grief of infertility, praying and hoping they’ll one day be blessed with a child they can watch grow.

How can I mourn my child growing when it is such a blessing that he is growing? Why should I allow the natural and beautiful process of a child growing to bring me sadness?

God really didn’t give us our children, he’s lending them to us for awhile as they grow. We are to raise them and train them to become independent men and women.

When my second and third babies were born, I cherished the moments, knowing the newborn days pass quickly. Those days passed but they were without sadness.

I am enjoying my children just as they are each and every day. 

We cannot slow time down but we can slow down.

We can decide to live in the moment, choose to be joyful about our children growing and enjoy each season of motherhood.

mothering

Mothering is hard work.

My children bring so much love and laughter into my life but that doesn’t mean that mothering a 2 and 22 month old isn’t hard.

Changing diapers, drying tears, dealing with tantrums, attempting to soothe a gassy baby and a toddler who explores dirty diapers are parts of a normal day. Then there’s endless laundry from clothes and cloth diapers. Add to that a toddler who won’t nap, a baby who doesn’t want to be put down and the crying…somebody is always crying (and somedays, it’s not just the tiny people doing the crying!)

Being a mama is so much harder than I imagined. 

Some days I wake up and long for the moment my husband arrives home. I often get to the end of the day and think, what did I accomplish? The floors are still dirty, the dishes unwashed, dinner was cheese and crackers and the straightening up I did do, has been undone.

I know I’m not alone. Mothering is hard.

Every mother has struggles. Unfortunately, we don’t share these struggles and since they’re not shared, we are more afraid to open up.

I suppose we’re afraid to share because other women will no longer think we’re perfect (ha ha!) or we don’t want to unload our issues on other women. But, we need to share with the women around us the struggles we really are facing.

Sometimes, just talking reveals that you’re overreacting to the situation. By sharing, you may receive a piece of advice that makes a huge difference in your role as a mama. And worst case, by opening up to other mamas, you’ll build stronger relationships.

After a rough day yesterday, I’ve realized the importance of a community of other mothers  around me, supporting me, encouraging me and listening to my struggles.

I have friends with children older than mine who understand and remember what it’s like to have 2 under 2. My plan is to open up to them, share my struggles and ask for advice as well as encouragement.

Mothering is hard work but there’s no reason to do it all alone. 

I’d love to hear your thoughts on the hard work of mothering and  I welcome any advice for managing two little ones!

(Mothering is hard but babies are sweet! I love wearing my sweet boy in my Baby K’tan!)

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