I’m a perfectionist. I want things done right and need order in my home.
While being a perfectionist isn’t a bad character trait, it makes being a mother of little ones very difficult. My innate desire is to ‘have it all together’ but the reality is I’m really a mess.
More importantly though, I’m recovering from perfectionism.
My desire to have everything in order within my home and for my children to fall into an easy routine has been taking the joy out of my life.
The reality, I have a toddler who doesn’t appreciate my desire for neatness and order. I also have a baby who wants to be held by his mama and refuses to nap unless he’s nursing or being worn.
Even though I want a very orderly home, I desire to be a joyful wife and mama more.
I’m learning to be okay with toys all over my house. The world does not stop if we don’t pick up the entire house before bed. Dishes can wait in the sink for a few hours or even overnight. I don’t have to stick to my ironing schedule. It’s okay that I have a baby who just wants to be held.
Expecting the disorder and more importantly, being okay with it, is making me a better mama!
I still love order and I’m still taking steps to make my household run smoothly and orderly but my goal is not perfection.
Do you have any tips or advice for this recovering perfectionist?