Enjoying Each Season of Motherhood

“My baby is growing up.”

These words weren’t uttered for the first time when he started crawling or on his first birthday. Instead, they were said on the way home from the hospital. He was just one day old!

I spent the first few months of his life sad.

I was sad he was growing, sad he wasn’t a newborn and sad he wasn’t going to stay a baby forever.

Once I realized mourning the past was keeping me from enjoying the present, I began fervently praying about the issue.

I prayed that God would allow me to be content with the season of life I was in, that He would take away the overwhelming sadness that my baby was growing too fast and that I would have joy throughout the years as my children grew.

My heart began to change.

I enjoyed my son in each and every stage instead of looking back on those early days with such longing.

I realized how blessed I am. How selfish it was of me to not want him to grow.

I thought about mamas who have never seen their child because of a miscarriage and mamas who held their stillborn baby only once. They would give anything to watch their babies grow.

I thought about the mamas who have a child diagnosed with cancer who just pray they can see their child grow up to graduate high school or get married.

I also thought of the women dealing with the grief of infertility, praying and hoping they’ll one day be blessed with a child they can watch grow.

How can I mourn my child growing when it is such a blessing that he is growing? Why should I allow the natural and beautiful process of a child growing to bring me sadness?

God really didn’t give us our children, he’s lending them to us for awhile as they grow. We are to raise them and train them to become independent men and women.

When my second and third babies were born, I cherished the moments, knowing the newborn days pass quickly. Those days passed but they were without sadness.

I am enjoying my children just as they are each and every day. 

We cannot slow time down but we can slow down.

We can decide to live in the moment, choose to be joyful about our children growing and enjoy each season of motherhood.


Minimal Summer Wardrobe
I’ve had a minimal wardrobe for a few years and enjoy the benefits that come with a simplified wardrobe.

I’m spending less time shopping for clothes, spending less money, my closet isn’t cluttered and getting dressed every day is simple.

I wanted you to see everything that makes up my minimal summer wardrobe.

Sources of My Clothing

I purchase many of my clothes at a local resale store. At the beginning of the spring and fall, I bring in our outgrown and unwanted gently used clothing, shoes and accessories and receive store credit. This store credit really helps stretch our clothing budget since we’re able to shop for the things we need without using cash.

I also shop other secondhand stores for clothes. I prefer consignment sales and stores to thrift shops because they tend to be much more organized. Plus, during this season of life, browsing through racks and racks of clothing with three young children in tow just isn’t my idea of fun!

My favorite sources for clothing are hand-me-downs and clothing swaps because the clothes are FREE! I have family and friends who occasionally pass clothes on to me and a local friend hosts a clothing swap each spring and fall where ladies bring clothes they no longer wear and we ‘shop’ what’s there.

I currently only own a handful of items that were purchased new but I’ll occasionally browse Bargain Hunt (a local discount store) and retail store clearance racks when I’m needing specific items that I can’t find secondhand.

I’ve noted the source of each of the items in my wardrobe so you can get an idea of where my clothes come from.

My Nice Clothes

The clothes hanging in my closet are my ‘nice’ clothes. These are the items that I wear to church, running errands and anytime I need to look a little bit more put together (date night, weddings, etc).


These tanks go with just about every bottom I have so they’re working hard for me this summer!


    • Cream Ruffled (hand-me-down)
    • Grey/White Stripe (resale store)
    • Turquoise Embellished (resale store)
    • Black Sequin (hand-me-down)


My short sleeve shirts aren’t too exciting but these three black shirts go with every bottom I own so they’re quite versatile. Pairing them with a colorful necklace gives them a new look.


  • Pink/White Stripe (resale store)
  • Black V-neck (resale store)
  • Black Crewneck (clearance at WalMart)
  • Black Scoopneck (clothing swap)


My bottoms are pretty simple but they’re perfect for mixing and matching with my tops.


  • Khaki Crops (clothing swap)
  • Denim Crops (thrifted)
  • Denim Skinnies (resale store)
  • Ankle Jeans (resale store)
  • Black/Cream Pants (resale store)


And, here’s a glimpse of my ‘mom shorts’! I actually love my mom shorts and think they’re fabulous. I purchased the patterned turquoise shorts because they are different than anything I own, I love the color and look great with a black top. They’re a little bit shorter than the mom shorts I’m used to but not too short!


  • Turquoise Patterned (resale store)
  • White (resale store)
  • Grey (hand-me-down)
  • Denim (hand-me-down)


We attend a very casual church and are simple family so I don’t have a need for really nice dresses. Both of these cotton dresses are cute and comfy and can be dressed up or dressed down, depending on where I need to wear them.


    • Navy/White (clothing swap)
    • Black (Bargain Hunt)

My Casual Clothes

I store my casual clothes in my drawers. These are the clothes I wear on the days I stay home all day. They’re comfortable and perfect for playing in the floor, wiping bottoms, working in the garden, cooking and all the other potentially messy things I do each day.

I do not wear frumpy clothes around my home, I get up and get dressed everyday. It’s important to feel both comfortable and cute for days at home!

Casual Tops

I’ve not been much of a tank top wearer in years past because I’ve been self conscious about my arms. As I’m getting older, I’m learning to fully embrace myself, so even though my arms aren’t perfectly sculpted, I can still wear tank tops! They’re perfect for hot Georgia summer days.
Casual Tops

  • Pink Tank (clothing swap)
  • Teal Tank (resale store)
  • Green Tank (resale store)
  • Black Embellished Tank (resale store)
  • Black Tank (clothing swap)
  • Black/White Stripe (clothing swap)
  • Black Tee (resale store)

Casual Bottoms

These casual bottoms mix and match with my casual tops. All of my tops go with all of the bottoms except the pink skirt. These denim shorts are quite short but they’re comfortable! I only wear them at home (who really wants to see a mama of 3 in short shorts?!) but I’ll probably take them along when we go camping this summer.
Casual Bottoms

  • Denim Shorts (clothing swap)
  • Yoga Capris (thrifted)
  • Dark Pink Skirt (thrifted)
  • Grey Skirt (clothing swap)
  • Black Skirt (clothing swap)


I keep my shoes simple too! The flip flops are worn for water activities and for gardening, the black sandals are my daily wear shoes (they are the most comfortable sandals I’ve ever owned) and the tennis shoes are worn on rainy days and for yard work, hiking, camping and such.


My collection of necklaces helps keep all of my solid black shirts and tanks from being too boring. Pairing a fun, chunky necklace with my solid black tees gives them a completely new look. I don’t wear cheap, mass produced costume jewelry, I prefer handmade, meaningful pieces.


  • Africa Necklace (The Adopt Shoppe)
  • Black,Coral, Turquoise Paper Bead Necklace made in Honduras (gift from my friend Marillyn of Just Making Noise)
  • Multi-Colored Paper Bead Necklace (made in Uganda, purchased via Etsy)
  • Red Beads (Gift from my husband’s 2014 trip to Ethiopia)
  • Red/Teal Necklace (Gift from my husband’s 2014 trip to Ethiopia)
  • Teal Beads (Gift from my husband’s 2011 trip to Ethiopia)
  • Black Beads (Purchased when I went to Ethiopia in 2013)

*And, I should note there are a few items not pictured. I also have a casual sleeveless black cotton dress, a pair of pajama shorts and capris, a bathing suit and swim shorts. Also, all of these clothing items were not purchased this year, I’ve had the majority of the items for 1-2 years and purchased around 12 ‘new to me’ items this spring and a few pieces (like the pink skirt and flip flops) are 5+ years old!

My minimal summer wardrobe consists of 46 items.

To some, that may be too many items and I’m sure I could pare down a little but there’s no need since I like everything in my wardrobe and have adequate space in my closet and drawer.

For others, it may seem like I have far too few clothes and that’s just fine, a minimal wardrobe is what I prefer.

If you’re wanting to declutter your closet and simplify your wardrobe, start by pulling every item out of your closet and drawers and only putting back the items you love and feel great in. Owning a minimal amount of clothing that you love is better than having a closet crammed full of clothing you don’t feel great in.

What are your thoughts on minimal wardrobes? 

For further wardrobe simplifying inspiration:

Minimal Summer Wardrobe

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Small House

Earlier this year, we made an offer on a small farm and put our home on the market. The seller wasn’t willing to negotiate one bit, our home didn’t sell and we realized it just wasn’t the right timing. At the beginning of May, we decided to take the ‘for sale’ sign down again.

So, why are we staying? 

We like our home. It’s in a great location about 15 minutes from my husband’s work, our church and town. We have great neighbors, we love our shaded front yard, fenced in back yard and garden plot. And, while our home is small, it’s just right for our family.

Living in our small home comes with benefits like a very affordable mortgage and there’s less to clean!

A week after we took the sign down, our church had Joe Sangl of I Was Broke, Now I’m Not teach on personal finances. We attended his financial coaching leadership seminar and church wide financial learning experience. His teachings gave us renewed excitement about our finances!

At the end of the weekend, we set several goals for our personal finances. The big goal we set is to have our mortgage paid off in 5 years (and we’re really hoping to knock it out before then!)

We are willing to sacrifice our dream of owning a small farm temporarily so we can put ourselves in a better financial position to purchase a small farm in few years. By waiting until we are in a better financial position to purchase a farm, we will eliminate a lot of financial stress that comes with having a large mortgage.

We’re staying in our small home because it makes the most sense for our family financially. 

Now that we’re focused on this goal, I’ll probably be sharing a bit more about our personal finances and how we’re making steps towards this goal. I’ll also be writing even more about living minimally in a small space since we’re fully embracing the home we’re in.

Defining Frugality

Frugal is a word that I often use to describe our lifestyle.

To our family, living frugally is positive. Many people think of frugality in a negative light, viewing it as deprived or miserly living.

What exactly is frugality? Is it positive or negative?

Here’s a definition:

Frugality- The practice of acquiring goods and services in a restrained manner and resourcefully using already owned economic goods and services to achieve a longer term goal. 

This definition of frugality explains our lifestyle in one sentence.

“The practice of acquiring goods and services in a restrained manner”

The first thing that comes to mind when I read this is budgeting. When you are on a budget, you are restraining yourself from excessive and haphazard spending.

We definitely approach goods and services in a restrained manner; shopping is not a hobby for us. We truly evaluate wants versus needs and give in to very few wants.

As far as services are concerned, my husband cuts our boys hair, I never get my hair cut at a salon (my husband will trim it for me or my friend cuts it), and we change our own oil.

“and resourcefully using already owned economic goods and services”

Instead of purchasing items the minute we want or need them we will evaluate the things that we already have to see if something else can be used or made into the item that we need.

An example of this, I once needed a bedskirt for our guest bed. Instead of spending $20+ for a new one, I took a queen size flat sheet and made it into a bedskirt for the full bed. Not only is this being frugal, it’s also being conscious of consumption.

“to achieve a longer term goal”

For us longer term goals are the reason we live a frugal life. When we married, we didn’t have much money, but we agreed and started working towards two financial goals. The first was that I will stay home with our children and the second was to own our home and have it paid off in 15 years.

If we didn’t live frugally, it would be very difficult to raise a family on a single income without feeling constantly deprived (we’re content with our 10+ year old cars, our small home and minimal wardrobes). We also wouldn’t have been able to put a significant down payment on our home and only have a 15 year mortgage. Achieving these goals are why we live frugally.

I hope this gives you a better understanding of exactly what frugality is. It is possible to live frugally without being miserly.

Do you agree with this definition of frugality? Do you view frugal living in a positive or negative note? Does this explanation change your opinion of frugality? 

*Definition of frugality from Lifestyle of the Tight and Frugal: Theory and Measurement by John Lastovicka