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“Plan a marriage, not a wedding.”
This was the ‘theme’ of our wedding planning. We were young, poor, in love and really could care less about an extravagant wedding! In fact, we even considered eloping to avoid wasting money on a wedding.
My daddy gave me a dollar figure that we had to work with for the wedding and told us that whatever we were under, he would write us a check for that amount. Now that’s motivation for frugal wedding planning! Plus, we already wanted to have a simple wedding which goes hand in hand with an inexpensive wedding.
Ways we kept our wedding costs down:
- First of all, I borrowed my dress. (I know some people think that is horrible. I love that I did because it cost nothing and I don’t have a wedding dress hanging in the back of my closet that I don’t want to get rid of because of sentimental reasons.)
- We didn’t use many flowers, in fact, we spent less than $150 on flowers all together.
- John David’s grandmother made our wedding cake and the groom’s cake. They were lovely and I love looking at the pictures of the cakes and thinking that she made them for us.
- We kept the reception simple with cake and punch.
- A dear friend of John David’s family and my aunt took our wedding pictures on our wedding day. They all turned out fabulous and I have no regrets about that decision. A week later, we went to a professional photographer and had some shots of us made. We only had to pay a sitting fee and one year later I finally ordered a few of these pictures when I was able to pay cash for them.
- We honeymooned in a town 2 hours away from where we were married and it cost us nothing thanks to John David’s parents time share.
When you’re focused on planning a marriage, you begin to realize that being financially responsible in order to begin your marriage on a solid financial footing is more important than any wedding dress, reception or pictures.
After the wedding, my daddy wrote us a nice little check which we added to our small savings which ultimately became our house downpayment.
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