When we found out the due date of our second baby, I was sad.
He was due December 31.
I did not want a Christmas baby!
While December 31 is not Christmas, December tends to be all about Christmas with parties, festivities and family gatherings throughout the month.
Growing up, I always thought December birthdays must be awful. You get all of your presents basically at one time, instead of spread out. I was sad that our baby was going to have an awful birthday.
I spent my entire pregnancy hoping he was at least one day late. Something about January 1 seemed much less Christmas-y than December 31. And, I absolutely did not want him to come before Christmas.
Well, all my hoping didn’t matter. He was not overdue. Instead, he was early. 9 days early, arriving in the early morning hours of December 22.
I was thrilled to have my sweet, tiny baby in my arms. And, his early arrival certainly made for a memorable and special Christmas but I was sad that he was born so close to Christmas Day.
During his first year, I often thought about how we were going to make his first birthday special, as well as future birthdays. I just wanted to separate it from Christmas – trying to make the most of the fact that I thought it was an awful birthday.
His first birthday fell on a Saturday that just so happened to be the day a family gathering was scheduled. I was so afraid that his birthday was going to be overshadowed by Christmas.
However, our family made it a wonderful first birthday. Everybody stopped the Christmas festivities to have a small birthday party – complete with cake and singing – for the birthday boy.
After his first birthday, my attitude began to change about his birthday.
If we, as his parents, didn’t think or act like December 22 was an awful birthday, our child wouldn’t grow up thinking that it was a bad date.
I started to think positively about his birthday.
December 22, 2011 was winter solstice – how neat is it that he was born on the first day of winter?
December is a month of fun, yummy food, friends and family – truly a wonderful time of year and a wonderful season to celebrate a birthday!
And, thinking positively about his birthday has made all the difference. This year, there was no sense of dread or worry about trying to make his day special because it was so close to Christmas.
Instead, I focused on making his birthday special because we were celebrating the day of his birth!
This year, he woke up to a hallway full of balloons on his second birthday! He loved the balloons and both boys had a lot of fun playing with them.
We had plans to go out for breakfast as a family that morning but big brother woke up with a fever so we had to stay home. We ended up waiting until the next day to have birthday cupcakes since I try to avoid giving our boys sugar when they’re sick. The day wasn’t necessarily ideal due to sickness but that’s real life and is not enough to ruin a birthday. (Having this mindset is proof that an overall positive attitude makes a world of difference – especially when it comes to life with little children!)
And, I laugh at my childhood thoughts about December birthdays being bad because you receive all of your gifts at once. As a mama who desires to live minimally, it’s actually a beautiful thing – the bulk of the gifts are received at once which means we are not bombarded with gifts all throughout the year!
Parent’s of Christmas babies, December birthdays are not awful! Just have a positive attitude and joyfully celebrate the birth of your child.