Embracing the Beautiful Messes

Classic picture of my boys. {I have about 2 decent shots of them.}

Is your life full of messes? 

If you have children at home, whether they’re 1 or 21, I’m pretty sure you do! And if you have pets, you do. Or maybe you’re just a bit of a messy person (which is just fine if that’s your personality!)

I’m a first born, perfectionist, organized neat freak and I do not like messes. But, imperfections and messes are unavoidable when you’re living with children!

I’d love for my home be neat all day, every day.

I don’t want it to be perfect, just neat. (I’ve embraced the fact that my floors are always going to be dirty, the laundry is never ending and pictures on the wall will be crooked!) I feel so much calmer and relaxed when my house is neat )like it was when I took the pictures of my living room and kitchen to share!)

The reality is, it’s only neat from the hours of 9 pm until 8 am. During the day there are toys, dishes, books, blankets, crumbs and more scattered everywhere. Beds get unmade, pillows are moved around and walls are written on.

The past few weeks I’ve been learning to let go of the desire for my home to be neat all day. I’ve been embracing the beautiful messes of this season of my lifeand it’s making me happier!

Instead of looking at the pile of blankets and toys in the middle of the living room floor and being frustrated that things aren’t in their proper place, I’m looking for the beauty in the mess.

Those blankets, they’re all handmade. Weston contentedly laid on his belly on them while I fixed lunch. Paxton played with them – wonderful things can be imagined and created with blankets. The 3 of us read books on them.

The drumstick and guitar, they’re favorite toys. Paxton loves playing with them. We create with them. We have family concerts with them.

It’s just a matter of thinking about the positive things and the beauty instead of just seeing a ‘mess’.

This week, instead of being frustrated by the little messes, look for the beauty in them! The books all over the house mean I’m instilling a love for reading in my son. The overflowing laundry hamper reminds me how blessed I am to have little clothes to wash! Even a sink full of dirty dishes is beautiful – you were blessed with food to eat.

Is your life full of messes?

 

responses to “Embracing the Beautiful Messes” 7

  1. Yes! Watermelon is currently smushed on my floor, veggie puffs have been crunched into the carpet and I could only find one shoe this morning – the other Rita had kindly stored away in her child-sized comfy chair. There are two sinks full of dishes, but like you said above, this is a reminder that we were blessed with delicious food last night and the company of two very dear friends! Laundry…yep got about five loads waiting (today is my designated laundry day) but so grateful for a washing machine and dryer!

    Even choosing to live minimally doesn't solve the mess situation, but it definitely has helped it. Picking-up takes a third of the time it used to and we are better able to identify when we have excess that needs to be paired down.

    1. I am grateful for my washer and dryer too! The first two years of marriage, I used a laundromat…I cannot imagine having to take two children to do laundry like I used to! And we've also found that the less we have, the easier it is to pick up the every day messes!

  2. You and I share the same desire to have a neat home! I also relax much better and am calmer when things are neat. Like you said, messes are hard to avoid with littles running/scooting around! I am trying hard to find the joy in the messes and I do better some days than others. If I had a bad day at work, well, the messes are going to bother me more because I am already a bit "worked up." I have a stressful job (as in I am counted on for a lot and spend many days "cleaning up the messes" others have made of our inventory) and I have been working hard to not leave work at work when I come home so the home messes don't bother me so much. I am getting better at it!

    This post was a good reminder to sit back and take in the day as it comes – messes and all! I am working on downsizing some of our things to help stop such large mess-making around here but as you know, it is a process and I am just at the start of it!

    1. The less you have, the smaller the mess! Another benefit of living with less for those of us who like neatness and order! Just today I pulled out some of Paxton's books and toys from the toy rotation closet and didn't put any up. His room was the messiest its been in weeks (obviously) but he also didn't play as well with the toys…he seemed more distracted. My husband even commented on the state of his room when he got home. {I do believe I'll be implementing toy rotation from here on out too!}

  3. Oh this is so me! I struggle with this since I have a baby, a dog, and messy-ish husband. But you are so right that beauty can be found in the mess. I love this quote I found somewhere

    "Sometimes the love and happiness in a home is directly proportional to the mess"

    1. That's a good quote! It reminds me of the messy things we do with Paxton like finger painting, dyeing easter eggs and letting him 'help' wash dishes, they all create big messes {since he's 2} but we're making good memories and you can see the joy in him!

  4. You have shared to us about a beautiful mess. I would like to share about a dangerous mess. In my home, my children always spill oil on the floor and throw the banana skin on the floor itself. Most of the relatives and neighborhoods who visit my house were hurt by this childish play!

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