When I first became a mama over 5 years ago, doing certain things defined me as a mother.
For awhile I described myself as a ‘breastfeeding, baby wearing, cloth diapering mama.’ And, while I did all of those things (and still do), they don’t define me as a mother.
Now, I do these ‘natural mama’ things because they are what work for me and my family.
- Breastfeeding all 3 of my babies has been easy. But, I know it’s not easy for every mama.
- I wear my babies because it makes taking my children places so much easier. Wearing my babies also allows me to fix dinner, fold clothes, wipe bottoms and do other household tasks even when my baby does not want to be put down.
- We cloth diaper because it saves our family money. Diapers are expensive and I love that we’re able to reuse our diapers over and over and have saved a lot of money over the past 5 years of diapering. But, cloth diapering doesn’t work for every family and that is perfectly fine.
Now that my oldest son is 5, my thoughts on birth and taking care of babies do not define who I am as a mother because I realize that there is so much more to mothering than how babies are born, diapered or fed.
With my oldest being kindergarten age now, we’ll officially start homeschooling this fall. ‘Homeschool mama’ will be a way to describe myself, but it’s not going to define me.
Who I am as a mother is so much more than how my child is educated. Our family chooses to homeschool for our reasons and other families choose public or private schools for their reasons but we all want the best for our children.
Being a mom should not be about trying to prove that we’re better than other moms because of the way we give birth, care for babies or educate our children.
No matter how a child is born, how they are fed, diapered or educated, they’re all children. And, all children have tantrums, get sick, fight with siblings and leave their mamas exhausted.
Being a mama is hard and the last thing we need to do is define ourselves by what we do or don’t do and compare ourselves to other moms.
Instead of viewing motherhood as a competition, it should be viewed as a sisterhood. We need to remember that we’re all in this together.
We need to encourage one another. We need to support one another. We need to help one another.
We need to let love, support, help and encouragement define us as mothers.
What defines you as a mother?